As a parent who wants open and productive communication with their kids, it’s important that you develop some important tools and skills in order to be effective. One such tools is…
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If your kids would listen to you all the time, then you’d be happy because your kids wouldn’t repeat your mistakes and would ward off their own mistakes, right? Wouldn’t that be just heavenly? However, if they listen to you all the time, you will also end up with robot-like kids who think only like you do, take no risks, push no boundaries, invent nothing new, and never learn to assert themselves. Obviously, that’s not what you want. What you really want is a kid who knows when to listen and follow conventional wisdom and when to think for him or herself.
All good parents have one thing in common: they want the best for their kids, they all want happy kids.
Over the years, I have heard countless parents say that their main concern is repeating their own parents’ mistakes. One mom told me, “I know exactly what mistakes I don’t want to make,” The she added more nervously, “I’m not worried about what to do, no what not to do!”
The best way to get the facts you need to check your assumptions and expectations is to ask your kid!
There are effective ways to get your child’s perspective, get the facts you need, and ask your child’s opinion
Respecting one another’s point of view is especially important and challenging when you and your co-parent don’t have many other compatible values (beyond the five concepts mentioned in our previous article) when it comes to your kids.