As a parent who wants open and productive communication with their kids, it’s important that you develop some important tools and skills in order to be effective. One such tools is…
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If your kids would listen to you all the time, then you’d be happy because your kids wouldn’t repeat your mistakes and would ward off their own mistakes, right? Wouldn’t that be just heavenly? However, if they listen to you all the time, you will also end up with robot-like kids who think only like you do, take no risks, push no boundaries, invent nothing new, and never learn to assert themselves. Obviously, that’s not what you want. What you really want is a kid who knows when to listen and follow conventional wisdom and when to think for him or herself.
Today we’ll discuss listening to older kids, which can be a little complex. You can help him/her feel heard…It’s never too early or too late to start honoring and respecting your children’s point of view. This is the best way to model for them how to honor and respect your point of view.
When your kids are speaking to you, respond in a way that allows children to understand that you heard them. I’m not necessarily talking about understanding or agreeing with the child; I’m talking about a statement that sends an important message that you’re a parent who cares and you’re listening!
In all the years I provided training for families, I would often ask kids, “If you had a magic want and you could change one thing about your parents, what would it be?” or ” If you had a magic wand and could make your parents do whatever you wanted, what would it be?” Almost consistently, they have told me they would make their parents listen to them and hear the better.
One of the most important factors in successful communication with your kids is to understand their points of view. The way you listen (and validate your kid), how you express yourself clearly, and how you teach your children to “use their words” are all great ways to communicate successfully.
Many times,however, communication failures are due to errors in…
Getting your kid to talk to you about a problem can be challenging, especially if they are being bullied.
You feel frustrated that your kid won’t share what’s going on and you can’t help him/her with the problem. You may even fear for his/her safety.
What is an effective way to encourage your kid to talk about problems?
My mission is to honor children and empower parents with proven, road-tested and simple parenting techniques that reduce struggles and add more joy for every member of the family.
I have been a guest speaker for parenting workshops, conferences, schools and parenting groups, and would enjoy the opportunity to speak to your audience.
“A child seldom needs a good talking to as much as a good listening to.” ~ Robert Brault
In all the years I provided parent training for families, I would often ask kids, “If you had a magic wand and you could change one thing about your parents, what would it be?” or “If you had a magic wand and could make your parents do whatever you wanted, what would it be?”
Almost consistently, they have told me they would make their parents listen to them and hear them better.