If your kids would listen to you all the time, then you’d be happy because your kids wouldn’t repeat your mistakes and would ward off their own mistakes, right? Wouldn’t that be just heavenly? However, if they listen to you all the time, you will also end up with robot-like kids who think only like you do, take no risks, push no boundaries, invent nothing new, and never learn to assert themselves. Obviously, that’s not what you want. What you really want is a kid who knows when to listen and follow conventional wisdom and when to think for him or herself.
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Today I would like to offer just one helpful tool; it’s a powerful one based on a proven behavior modification technique. Behavior scientists, teachers, and parent trainers have used this method for years. I know many parents like you may have used this strategy in some form in the past. When use correctly, it’s magical powers create a child who would comply with your directions and reasonable commands. The principle on which the strategy is based is called Premack’s Principle.
Let’s say you have a twelve-year-old boy who has enjoyed many privileges up to now – before you understood the principle of earning privileges. How are you going to help him understand that from now on, he needs to earn those privileges?
Dr. Shirin Sherkat Psy.D. will guide you in your efforts to avoid power struggles with your kids as she gives you strategies that will help:
Reduce talking back
Motivate your kids
Result in order in your home
Increase enjoyment in your family
My mission is to honor children and empower parents with proven, road-tested and simple parenting techniques that reduce struggles and add more joy for every member of the family.
I have been a guest speaker for parenting workshops, conferences, schools and parenting groups, and would enjoy the opportunity to speak to your audience.
There are many teachable moments in your kids’ lives when you can prevent them from making poor choices. At the very least, it is possible to successfully talk with your children and negotiate alternatives with them. To accomplish this and decrease power struggles, you need tools – most importantly, the power of negotiation! As a parent, YOU are in charge. Here are 5 secrets to remaining in control: