Today I would like to offer just one helpful tool; it’s a powerful one based on a proven behavior modification technique. Behavior scientists, teachers, and parent trainers have used this method for years. I know many parents like you may have used this strategy in some form in the past. When use correctly, it’s magical powers create a child who would comply with your directions and reasonable commands. The principle on which the strategy is based is called Premack’s Principle.
“If you want children to keep their feet on the ground, then put some responsibility on their shoulders” – Abigail Van Buren
The beauty of having your children earn their privileges, and the lessons that can be learned.
As the adult in the home, more often than not, creating peace in your home is up to you, so I hope these few ideas will find a useful place in your “toolbox”, and your home will be a place of strong relationships, a place of learning and a place where children thrive.
Maintaining peace in your home creates a positive environment where children feel secure and loved, and where family values can be taught and strong relationships built. Use these tools to help you build and maintain a peaceful home.
These are tools and secrets that behaviorists have used for years to maintain positive behaviors. These tools and strategies will help you maintain and continue to foster good choices by your kids. On many occasions, your kids make good decisions, behave well, comply with your request, and simply put – do the right thing! Unfortunately, it’s often when kids misbehave that we notice them.
Privileges should be desirable to the kid…In order for you to have any leverage when using privileges as incentive for reward, you must make sure the privilege is something your child wants. So, while I’ve provided suggestions for age appropriate privileges, the best way to find out what you kids consider rewarding
What do I mean by “simplify”? This little word has so much power! Our world and lives are complicated enough without us adding more to them daily. I prescribe healthy doses of “Simplicity” to help you create more balance.
I’ll share with you one of my most personal lessons. I have loved the power of simplicity in my life for decades. My husband and I enjoy a minimalist lifestyle. Everyone who walks into our home is
Every parent feels somewhat rushed during breakfast, before sending kids off to school and taking of to work. Since it is difficult (if not impossible) to get together with your kids for lunch during school days, it only makes sense that you create “Dinner Time” where you sit at the same table, eat, talk, and enjoy one meal together without distractions or interruptions for a solid twenty minutes. I think your family deserves twenty minutes once a day, don’t you?
Although I could write an entire book on this topic alone, I have only one thing to say: It is essential that you and your spouse have time together for a few hours each week.
Use your support team, resources, babysitters, friends and family to arrange someone to watch your kids so you can spend some uninterrupted, worry-free time with your spouse.
The art of creating balance is not as difficult as most experts make it sound.
Think “simple and easy.” If you take a few small steps every day to create more balance in your daily life, you will cope better and more importantly, you’ll teach your kids better coping skills too. The key to your success is learning to prioritize.