In my experience with families, we mainly focus on what to do and how to do it successfully in order to see results. From time to time, however, the question “What should we avoid doing?” comes up. I have compiled a short list of some “Don’ts” that I hope you find helpful.
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As you already know, it’s human nature for your kids to want to test the rules and push some boundaries. Consistency is important in establishing new rules as well as helping children adjust to change.
Once the rules are clear and established in your mind, the trick is to make sure your kids understand them.
The key to success is in early training. the sooner you begin defining and clearly communicating the rules to your kids, the better success you’ll have.
Let’s focus on how to set boundaries (family rules), the power of intermittent reinforcement, and the importance of consistency.
A couple of years ago, I was providing some parent training for a wonderful family. Their 11-year old son was good at testing limits and pushing boundaries. His parents were responsive to my suggestions and trying to be consistent and clear with their son about the rules.
It’s natural and quite common to pay more attention to your kids when they’re being unruly and not paying attention to you. In fact, you may find it’s easy to ignore them when they’re going about their business and doing what they are supposed to be doing.