Your goal is to show your kids that you are part of a reliable, strong and functional parenting team. When you achieve this goal, you accomplish a crucial and possibly life-saving step.
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Once you’ve build a solid foundation for a strong parenting team, the fun part begins: the process of problem solving and negotiating as a team. This process is more of an art that it is a science.
Respecting one another’s point of view is especially important and challenging when you and your co-parent don’t have many other compatible values (beyond the five concepts mentioned in our previous article) when it comes to your kids.
Whether you and your spouse are raising your kids(s) in the same home, or you are co-parenting and live apart, you have to agree on some compatible values.
If you think such agreement is impossible, allow me to suggest at least five concepts you and even your ex’s current spouse can agree on.
Kids are naturally good at noticing and taking advantage of discrepancies. It is amazing how quickly even a two-year-old can pick up on the fact that his parents don’t agree about something.
It is essential that you and your parenting partner (from now on referred to as a “co-parent”) set aside some time every day (just a few minutes) to communicate about your kid’s needs and update each other.