You have been helping your kids communicated, identify their feelings, and face their fears. Not to mention helping them learn to manage stress and frustration. You’re doing well, until…one day they catch you “losing it!” They overhear you curse and react toward someone in an unfair manner. Now what?
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Kids need to learn that their feelings are normal and okay, and that how they act upon their feelings is a choice. The better choices they make, the better the outcomes. Unfortunately how to manage their feelings is the foundation for healthy coping skills.
You want to be heard by your kid, and your kid wants to be heard by you…is that even possible? As the parent, you can set the tone of the discussion, and if you do it right, odds are better that both sides get heard.
Today we’ll discuss listening to older kids, which can be a little complex. You can help him/her feel heard…It’s never too early or too late to start honoring and respecting your children’s point of view. This is the best way to model for them how to honor and respect your point of view.
When your kids are speaking to you, respond in a way that allows children to understand that you heard them. I’m not necessarily talking about understanding or agreeing with the child; I’m talking about a statement that sends an important message that you’re a parent who cares and you’re listening!
In all the years I provided training for families, I would often ask kids, “If you had a magic want and you could change one thing about your parents, what would it be?” or ” If you had a magic wand and could make your parents do whatever you wanted, what would it be?” Almost consistently, they have told me they would make their parents listen to them and hear the better.
You can successfully remind your kids without creating a dependent child and without nagging, and while using your kid’s skills/strengths in visual memory.
You can write down tasks that are part of the daily routine and make a list that is…
Every parent feels somewhat rushed during breakfast, before sending kids off to school and taking of to work. Since it is difficult (if not impossible) to get together with your kids for lunch during school days, it only makes sense that you create “Dinner Time” where you sit at the same table, eat, talk, and enjoy one meal together without distractions or interruptions for a solid twenty minutes. I think your family deserves twenty minutes once a day, don’t you?
The best way to get the facts you need to check your assumptions and expectations is to ask your kid!
There are effective ways to get your child’s perspective, get the facts you need, and ask your child’s opinion
For kids, summer time means going to bed late and sleeping in some mornings.
Getting up and getting ready early for school can be very challenging.
To avoid many frustrations and morning battles during the first week of school, you may want to try the following: