Are you bribing your kids? If you wish to reduce power struggles and create motivated kids who do what they are suppose to, then this article is for you!
“Don’t handicap your children by making their lives easy.” ~ Robert A.Heinlein
If “not being heard” is the number one complaint of most parents, the “lack of motivation” has to be the number two!
I have often heard parents say, “I have to ask my kids a million times to get them to finish something.” Although a “million” may be a slight exaggeration, the feeling of frustration is real.
“A child seldom needs a good talking to as much as a good listening to.” ~ Robert Brault
In all the years I provided parent training for families, I would often ask kids, “If you had a magic wand and you could change one thing about your parents, what would it be?” or “If you had a magic wand and could make your parents do whatever you wanted, what would it be?”
Almost consistently, they have told me they would make their parents listen to them and hear them better.